How much is too much? Although, I believe it’s inevitable to never compromise, we must learn how to do it in a way that will strengthen our relationship. We must find the perfect blend of giving and taking in our interconnections. When it comes to compromising in a bond, I believe that small doses of it are ideal. An example of coming to a happy medium is sacrificing watching your favorite show to watch your spouse’s favorite (Thank God for On Demand!). Choosing to fix your partner’s best loved meal of steak & potatoes despite your intense craving for Mexican food is a reasonable bargain. I believe it is when you start compromising against your better judgment, is when you enter a dangerous zone. When you start making decisions to please your spouse, but hurt yourself; you only do an injustice to your well being and ultimately destroy the relationship. Every couple must learn the balance in the art of compromise to ensure that both parties are satisfied.
The give-and take in your affair should create positive results. I need you to walk with me through this example! You may not be the aggressor in the making love department of the relationship. Your partner has voluntarily taken the lead in this aspect of your relationship. A healthy way to COMPROMISE in this situation if you are not the aggressor is to make more advances in initiating sex. I don’t care if you only do it twice in a month, making the effort shows the regard you have for the relationship. If you have to gulp a glass of wine in two seconds, do it. Just make sure that before that alcoholic braveness wear off, you bring the freak out!
Compromising in a relationship is vital, but only in small doses PEOPLE. You should never go against what you believe is right to please anyone. It is healthy to push pass your comfort zone as long it ignites growth. I believe a healthy relationship serves both parties in a meaningful way, not just one party. If one person is always doing the heavy lifting to make sure the relationship is on solid ground, then it’s sinking fast. Each person should be working equally to meet the needs of the other so there will not be any resentment harbored. If a person have to take more than they give in a relationship, the only person they need to be in relationship with is themselves. It takes an aware person in knowing who they are, what they need, and their willingness to accommodate their partner.
So how much do you compromise in a relationship? Just think, small doses!