Girlfriend Chat of The Day/Love Diaries: How Much Do You Suppose to Compromise In A Relationship?

girlfriend chatHow much is too much? Although, I believe it’s inevitable to never compromise, we must learn how to do it in a way that will strengthen our relationship. We must find the perfect blend of giving and taking in our interconnections. When it comes to compromising in a bond, I believe that small doses of it are ideal. An example of coming to a happy medium is sacrificing watching your favorite show to watch your spouse’s favorite (Thank God for On Demand!). Choosing to fix your partner’s best loved meal of steak & potatoes despite your intense craving for Mexican food is a reasonable bargain. I believe it is when you start compromising against your better judgment, is when you enter a dangerous zone. When you start making decisions to please your spouse, but hurt yourself; you only do an injustice to your well being and ultimately destroy the relationship. Every couple must learn the balance in the art of compromise to ensure that both parties are satisfied.
The give-and take in your affair should create positive results. I need you to walk with me through this example! You may not be the aggressor in the making love department of the relationship. Your partner has voluntarily taken the lead in this aspect of your relationship. A healthy way to COMPROMISE in this situation if you are not the aggressor is to make more advances in initiating sex. I don’t care if you only do it twice in a month, making the effort shows the regard you have for the relationship. If you have to gulp a glass of wine in two seconds, do it. Just make sure that before that alcoholic braveness wear off, you bring the freak out!

Compromising in a relationship is vital, but only in small doses PEOPLE. You should never go against what you believe is right to please anyone. It is healthy to push pass your comfort zone as long it ignites growth. I believe a healthy relationship serves both parties in a meaningful way, not just one party. If one person is always doing the heavy lifting to make sure the relationship is on solid ground, then it’s sinking fast. Each person should be working equally to meet the needs of the other so there will not be any resentment harbored. If a person have to take more than they give in a relationship, the only person they need to be in relationship with is themselves. It takes an aware person in knowing who they are, what they need, and their willingness to accommodate their partner.
So how much do you compromise in a relationship? Just think, small doses!

#Pray For Orlando (Celebrity VIDEO Demanding an END to Gun Violence)

pray for orlandoI am still lost for words at the reality that 50 people were slaughtered and even more injured because a coward felt entitled and “religiously justified” to take their lives. I fight back nausea and tears, wanting to purge the world of hypocrisy, violence, racism, and inequality. I am beyond sad and hate the fact that I have to even recap such a horrendous act of violence. Before I give the background, specifics, and new updates regarding the mass shooting in Orlando’s Nightclub Pulse; I dedicate this blog to every victim who lost their lives and their love ones.
A HORROR SCENE
A gay nightclub in Orlando was the scene early Sunday of the worst terror attack in U.S. history since 9/11. This is the deadliest, mass shooting in the United States to date.
Gunman Omar Mateen of Ft. Pierce, Florida opened fire inside Pulse nightclub where 300 members of the LGBT community were partying. According to the Daily News, the shooter was an abusive and homophobic menace that was investigated by the FBI (on more than one occasion) and pledged allegiance to ISIS right before his massacre, authorities and relatives said. Mateen’s family and the family of his ex wife has confirmed his abusive nature and enragement towards homosexuality; especially the sight of two men kissing one another. In 2011, he was divorce from his ex wife Sitora Yusufiy. She has shared intimate details about her marriage, stating that she would be beaten if he came home to chores being incomplete. Nydailynews. Com reported that
Mateen, 29, declared his devotion to ISIS in a 911 call shortly before killing his victims. In his final call, he also mentioned theTsarnaev brothers, who executed the Boston Marathon bombing in 2013. Mateen died in a gunfight with SWAT officers after the mass killing.
The story gets deeper, not only was this man devoted to the principles of ISIS; he was investigated multiple time by the FBI in reference to terrorism. This man was able to become a security guard with a firearm. It is beyond troubling that this man was no stranger to this country’s intelligence and was allowed employment to “PROTECT” people with a deadly weapon.
So many stories about the victims have surfaced online, but one captured my heart in a way only a mother could understand. Mina Justice is the mother of one of the victims killed in the massacre. Her son Eddie Justice took refuge in the bathroom of the night club. The text exchange between mother and son started at approximately 2:06 am, detailing the chilling reality of her son stranded in the bathroom. He tells his mother that he is in the club and that it was indeed shooting happening in there. He asks his mother for help and replies that he was witnessing people wounded in the very bathroom he was in. At 2:39am he told his mother he was going to die. At 2:49am he told his mother to hurry because the man was in there with them and he actually called the man a terror. A minute later, she received the last text from her son which said, ‘Yes”. It is assumed he was answering his mother question when she specifically asked if the man was in the bathroom with him. Tragically, Eddie knew his fate and now the whole world grieves this senseless hate crime.
As I end this post, still fighting tears and nausea; I want to spread the message of LOVE. NO one deserves to be killed because of their sexual preference, race, or religion. This level of inequality is inhumane and vile. Most importantly, God nature is positive and not evil. The fact that anyone would use religion or God as the root of hate towards anybody is WRONG.
I am going to work harder today to keep my smile and continue to use my little, ole platform to encourage love.
A website has been set up to list the names of the victims after their respective love ones have been notified. The website is http://www.cityoforlando.net/blog/victims/

Post Divorce Goals! Find Out Where Wiz Khalifa & Amber Rose Celebrated Their Divorce! (VIDEO)

wizandamber2Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa celebrate their finalized divorce and settlement with a trip to the strip club……….ratchedness at its finest! I have to say that this former couple has to be commended on their post divorce relationship and “co-parenting”. You know they are still knocking boots! Let’s get into the details of the divorce via TMZ and lovebscott.com.
“According to their settlement, he has to pay Amber $644,000 to complete the $1 million he owes her based on their prenup. He’s also responsible for paying Amber $14,800 a month in child support for Sebastian — they both share legal and physical custody.
Wiz gets to keep a home in Pennsylvania and 10 cars.
Presumably to celebrate the legal end of their marriage, the ex-couple hit up Ace of Diamonds strip club in Los Angeles — together.”
15 GRAND for one baby………PER MONTH! #IMBITTERLOL
Amber is making the ex wife status look sweet with hand in hand outings and money! She has all the gold diggers looking for a quickie marriage!
Pictures and video courtesy of TMZ.com.
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Beyonce Named the CFDA Fashion Icon! Blue Ivy Steals the Show on Red Carpet!

beyjayblue1The red carpet of the CFDA Fashion Awards was finally simmering down from all the striking fashion before Queen Bey set a match with her sparkly, striped Givenchy suit. It was Blue Ivy who stole the show with waving her fingers towards the paparazzi urging them to stop taking photos! Jay-Z accompanied his wife and daughter to the show, without even dropping a hint she’d be attending! Jay-Z, daughter Blue Ivy, and her mom Tina Knowles sat front row to watch Mrs. Carter accept the award.
Miss Tina sat in the front row, sweetly wiping tears as her daughter’s acceptance speech honored her mother’s accomplishments and unselfish contribution to her own fashion sense. She spoke on how her mother worked tirelessly designing Destiny Child’s early costumes because the industry did not accommodate the curvaceous figures of the group members. She also told the audience how her mother hand sewed her prom dress, wedding dress, and Grammy’s ensembles. The humbleness that the superstar echoed for her mother was heartwarming, charming us with her southern roots! Check out the pictures! beyjayblue2

Poetry Fix: The Art of Womanhood! Spoken Word by Poet Danielle Q. Kinsey (VIDEO)

cropped-image_resized-e1452643403842.pngToday, I had the honor of sharing my poetry with Pastor Alfred Boddie & the beautiful ladies of Abundant Grace Baptist Church. It was their first Women’s Day and I am so happy to have made memories with this group of women. The name of my piece was, The Art of Womanhood! I just pray that someone was touched and that even you will be blessed through my gift. I am humbled and happy that I had the opportunity. Enjoy the video below. God Bless.

Angela Simmons Confirms Pregnancy!

angela pregnatThe self- proclaimed virgin and PK (daughter of Rev. Run) has confirmed pregnancy rumors just weeks after she got engaged to a mystery man. The world speculated between two guys and I must say that the actual man, who has won Angela’s heart, was the one we was NOT rooting for. His name is Sutton Sean Tennyson and they are expecting their first child. Weeks ago when I initially reported her engagement, the only reliable information I could find on the man was that he was an Atlanta resident/businessman who has a criminal background. If someone so happened to “Google” this individual, multiple mugshots will appear. His charges range from being arrested & jailed for carrying concealed weapons, credit card fraud, identity theft, drug possession and police obstruction. He was most recently released from prison in 2010 with his last arrest being a little over a year ago.angela mugshot
Wow! It’s almost unbelievable that Angela’s famous dad and hip hop pioneer, Rev. Run approves of his future son in law. The preacher has publicly congratulated his daughter on the news via Twitter, yet has not commented on Sean’s sketchy past.
Most importantly, Angela is thrilled to be a new wife and mommy. The fashion designer and reality starlet actually confirmed the pregnancy via Instagram by posting a picture of a bare, small bump. She captioned the picture with:
“We are overjoyed and super excited to receive a blessing this big! Starting a family was something that I could have only dreamed of”angie preggie instagram
So, hopefully her man is reformed and ready to settle down. I wonder if he even has a job outside of being Angela’s baby daddy. If I was to make a prediction, these two will not even make it down the aisle. We have to follow this story.
Angela’s baby bump picture is courtesy of Hollywoodlife.com.
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Jay Z Finally Responds Artistically to His Wife’s LEMONADE Album & Their Marriage Is Worth Millions! (AUDIO)

jayelemonaderesposeHis execution was smooth, but we needed JayZ to give us that Keith Sweat beg for his wife’s forgiveness!
It is true that power couple, Jay Z and Beyonce has yet again use their star power to make millions from putting their personal lives on full display for our judgment. It has been nearly a month since Beyonce released her new album Lemonade exclusively on her husband’s tidal music stream. The usually tight lipped and private couple has been more vocal about their personal relationship after the infamous elevator incident in 2014. It’s when Beyonce’s sister Solange attacked JayZ for supposedly cheating with fashion designer, Rachael Roy. Fast track to 2016 and Beyonce has confirmed her husband’s cheating in new album and according to her husband, their marriage is worth millions. He literally says this in the remix of “All the Way Up” featuring Fat Joe, Remy Ma, and French Montana;
You know you made it when the fact
Your marriage made it is worth millions.
Lemonade is a popular drink, and it still is.
Survival of the littest.”

Even if you are not a fan of this artist’s work, NO ONE can deny that their strategy of capitalizing on their personal life is genius. Check the song out below!
Personally, I was hoping for a more empathic response praising his wife for choosing to stay with his cheating ass; instead we got the normally arrogant/gangster swag!

I must say that REMY MA was the real MVP for this remix. She murdered every single male on this track! Check out the audio below.

The REAL Tea About Tamar Braxton’s Abrupt Departure from The Real! (VIDEO)

realallDays ago, Tamar Braxton posted an impetuous message on her Intagram account claiming she was “stabbed in the back” by someone she trusted. Shortly after,” The Real” day time television show announced that Tamar will not be returning for the third season of the show. Braxton alongside Comic Loni Love, Adrienne Bailon, Jeannie Mai, and Tamera Mowry were the original lineup since the show’s premiere a few years back.
Initially, the media accused the other cohost of being the reason behind Tamar’s exit from The Real; but days later we are getting a much clearer perceptive on what really happened and it does not seem too farfetched. Now, it is being reported by multiple blogs including lovebscott.com (who were the first blog to break the rumors on Tamar getting fired) that our beloved Tay Tay was booted because of her unprofessionalism with staff and advertisers. The report detailed Tamar’s “ghetto behavior” complimented with neck rolling, mouth smacking, and neglected intellectual sayings was contributed to her departure. Check out the detailed report;

Executives of the hit daytime talk show The Real fired Tamar Braxton because of negative feedback on her ‘ghetto’ persona given by focus groups – as well as on-set insubordination and a rebellion by advertisers.
The show’s sales team made it clear that advertisers did not want her in their segments due to her antics and lack of cooperation.
Specifically, there was an incident a few weeks ago that basically ended her run with the show.
During the final tapings of The Real in early May, the show’s executive producer had reached breaking point with Tamar, who cursed her out in earshot of other staffers on set after being upset she lost a game during the taping.
‘It was an ugly scene. Pinterest was sponsoring the segment and Tamar was genuinely upset she was losing the game.
‘She really acted out during the taping in front of the studio audience and then exploded behind the scenes once the show was done.
Producers had to heavily edit the segment to make it presentable to air on TV, but the sponsor was on set for the segment and witnessed it all,’ the source explains.
According to production people on the show, Tamar’s outbursts on set were frequent. She regularly blew up at the executive producer and oftentimes her husband Vincent Hubert or her co-hosts would work to calm her down.
‘Let’s just say she was becoming unbearable to work with,’ the source added.
In addition to her alleged on-set antics, on paper Tamar wasn’t proving to be ‘worth’ the hassle.
Telepictures decided to conduct focus groups on the show to see what they could do to empower the show for Seasons 3 and 4, as it had been announced that the series had received a two-year renewal on all Fox stations and on BET where it re-airs.
The research from the focus group was not good for Tamar.
‘The focus group research showed that most educated and working women did not identify with Tamar’s show vernacular and her use of words known to be popular among drag queens and some gay men – phrases like “get your life,” “where they do that at,” “have several seats.”
‘It was even said she seemed more suited to be a judge on RuPaul’s Drag Race on Logo instead of a talk show host on The Real,’ revealed the source.
‘The research went on to say that most educated and working women found her to be ‘ghetto’ and that her aggressive eye-rolling, neck-rolling and the smacking of her mouth were indicative of ‘stereotypical behavior that African American women have worked years to overcome,” the source continued.

tamarrealcoverPersonally, I despise when people say someone is” acting ghetto” because technically the word is a noun. It means a part of a city, especially a slum area occupied by a minority group. Someone can be born and raised in a ghetto; but articulate or behave with prestige, enlightenment, and class. In 2016, people CHOOSE to talk “ratchet”, loud, and without ambition because most of us deal with much more serious issues (Like police officers killing African American boys, keeping a roof over the heads of our children, or just pursuing our own dreams). I think Tamar represent the current mentality of a lot of people who choose to be animated and full with spunk! No one cares if you are politically correct with your speech or make up relatable slogans that people can identify with. Everyone can relate to having a bad day and using lighthearted epigrams to escape the strenuous routine of our daily regimens. The show is called “The Real”, supposedly designed for the cohost to give a down to earth perspective on life. Unless you are going around murdering people and harming babies; the way someone “acts” should not be under so much damn scrutiny (We got bigger fish to fry… DONALD TRUMP for president). A show meant to entertain us has turned into an examination of cultural tradition/behavior?! We just want to be entertained and Tamar Braxton did that for her audience.
I will be tuning into the “ratchedness” of Tamar on Braxton Family Values on We TV on Thursday night @9:00pm.
Check out the clip of Tamar’s explanation/reaction of her departure.

Tamar Braxton Fired From “The Real” For Refusing To Snitch?!

tamarrealcoverWhile the nice executives at The Real Daytime show used a more elegant approach to explain Tamar Braxton’s abrupt departure from the show; Tay Tay gave us THE REAL tea (SORT OF).
Although, Tamar was vague on her tirade via Instagram; she dropped information. She posted a picture with her being affectionately embraced by her older sister, Toni Braxton. The caption read:
I love u all but I have been stabbed in the back by someone I stupidly trusted ( not my man or my sisters) I am not about to be tried and tested to snitch (👀) and it’s not in good taste to tell you who…… but as #tamartians you are very smart and can figure things out on your own. But know that every one who smiles in your face is NOT your friend and is NOT cheering for you and will LIE and try and tear u down to TRY and dim your light. Thank GOD HE HOLDS MY FUTURE AND MY HAND! (Remember who u are)….I am Tamar Braxton. And if you thought for 1 sec u played me…..In the late great prince and the amazing Beyoncé voice you PLAYED yourself😂 to God be the Glory and I will be taking a short break from ALL social media…until then❤️ yourself and WATCH YOUR BACK ( I put this picture up cause this is the embrace I got from my sister and best friend that she ALWAYS gives when she knows I’ve been had)tamartoni

Now multiple reports are saying that Tamar was not reading well with the audience and production found it difficult to work with her. I completely think Tamar was SHADED by her fellow cohost, I think it was a personal quarrel between the ladies and my gut is saying..Loni Love. I do know that Love had the original idea for the show, personally handpicking the other co hosts. Loni was the only one among the ladies to make her Instagram account private due to the Tamartians evading her page with negative comments after her departure (SHE WAS FIRED). Tamar also unfollowed ALL the ladies with the exception of Tamera Mowry, Housley. Tamar is high strung and emotional; so I’m pretty sure she feels slighted by Adrienne, Jenny, and Loni…………her “unfollowing” them was a passage aggressive move without telling us directly what went down.
The show released the following statement:
THE REAL and Tamar Braxton have mutually decided that Tamar will not be continuing with the show for its upcoming third season. She will be leaving in order to concentrate on her solo career. Everyone associated with THE REAL appreciates Tamar’s efforts and the contributions she has made to the show’s success, and we wish her all the best for the future.”

Although, the show gave us a generic explanation regarding her desertion stating she wants to focus on her singing career; I am pretty sure the upcoming season of her reality show Tamar & Vince will fill us in! The singer and reality star has a secure footing in music and reality television, so the world will not be without Tamar’s dramatic personality!

Baltimore Officer Edward Nero Found Innocent in the Freddie Gray Case

officerneroI woke up to the Baltimore sunrise on this spring morning, only to be gutted by another innocent verdict in the death of fellow Baltimorean, Freddie Gray.

This is a lost for the whole city, which was saturated with riots and warlike wreckage after the death and funeral of Freddie Gray. Today, we feel the same hopelessness similar to those dark days because of the expected failure of our judicial system. Let’s get to the facts.

A Baltimore judge found Baltimore Police Officer Edward Nero not guilty of all charges stemming from the April, 2015 death of Freddie Gray.

Nero, 30, had been charged with second-degree assault, reckless endangerment and two counts of misconduct in office.
Gray, 25, suffered severe spinal cord injuries after he was put into the back of a Baltimore police van and died days after sustaining his injuries. His death sparked protests from national leaders and rioting in Baltimore and has served as a rallying cry for the Black Lives Matter movement.

Shortly after Gray’s death, State’s Attorney Marilyn Mosby charged six officers, three white and three black, on charges ranging from misconduct to second-degree murder. Nero was the second officer to face trial and pleaded not guilty. In December, Officer William G. Porter’s trial ended with a hung jury, after which they judge declared a mistrial.

Adding insult to injury, Nero was suspended with pay from the police force. There is no word regarding his return to the law enforcement.

Nero trial, which lasted six days, prosecutors alleged that Gray’s arrest was tantamount to an assault because it was an improper, the Sun reports. Nero’s attorneys argued that the arrest was justified. They said it was the driver’s responsibility to buckle detainees into the van and that Nero hardly touched Gray.

Nero’s partner, Officer Garrett Miller, said that he had arrested Gray and not Nero, Reuter’s reports.
It does not matter how we continue the conversation about this incident; the evidence we attempt to intelligently review; or the immoral judicial system that allow murders to blatantly kill African Americans, nothing seems to mend the hearts of people who are trying to make sense of these unfortunate events.
Today we cry, tomorrow we rise to fight another day. We have to continue to fight for justice and use our voice to implement change. It all start with home and if saying high to a stranger is your part, DO IT! If starting an afterschool program for at risk youth are in your power, do it. If praying and spreading positivity on your social media is your contribute, continue to do it. If leading protests and writing to your congressmen is your contribution, keep doing it. If you blog about humanity, entertainment, and current events……….do it. My only point is to continue to do your part in making our world better, no contribution is too small. We have to learn to allow LOVE to meddle into every aspect of our lives.
God bless Freddie Gray and his family
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