I had so much fun with my Sistagirls as we chopped it up about finding ways to balance your friendships and significant other. Should you allow the relationships to mesh? What should be the boundaries? How much time to you dedicate to spending time with your friends? What if your boo is jealous of your friendships vice versa………………….we addressed it ALL. We talked about Donald Trump and Dream Kardashian. I even had time to squeeze in my Poetic Fix and really good music! Check it out below!
I had a blast doing this show! Mainly, because I exist inside of a loving blended family. I do believe that most of us exist inside of a blended family and it’s important to convey the message of love. It is hard, but if the children is placed as a priority; it can be a beautiful experience. Enjoy this show and check out how my sistagirls replied to this topic, Ceaira Isaac’s story (coming from the child in the situation/the step parent)…..it was truly powerful! Check it out below!
I had so much fun chopping it up with my Sistagirls on this topic! I proposed this question…………..When does healthy compromise becomes unhealthy compromise in a relationship? Check out the show below. It you want to hear the show live, go to lifeenhancementradio.com on Saturdays @ noon!
I acted a natural fool with the person who is partly responsible for my CRAZY! My momma; Passa June Tyler and she preach ya’ll! Check it out and remember to hit the link and even listen live on Saturdays at noon!
Listen to “Show 2! Slut Shaming Versus Suzy Power!” on Spreaker.
Check out the first episode of my new, online radio show! Sistagirl Sessions with Danielle is my baby and I am loving it! Every week I’m learning how to perfect the show for you guys. The most important thing is just learning to trust myself and everything God has put into me through experience. I am WOMAN, hear me ROAR!
My son and I are journeying through our seventh year of adoption. His first few years were filled with sweet mush and the scent of baby lotion! It was not until a year ago, that that innocence was tainted. I told my son that he was adopted and we started feeling the first wave of turbulence on our expedition. No longer was this ride smooth or one sided. I was the only one bearing the burden of telling my son that he was adopted, I wished I could shelter him forever from this reality. Now, it was time to let him in on the secret that I forced deep into my conscious mind. Let’s get into the story!
I have been rehearsing the lines for years, probably since he was a baby. Quite honestly, I dreaded the day I had to tell my first true love that we were not biologically connected. We were connected through spirits and our souls. In my opinion, I felt more close to Troy then my two biological daughters. He is my soul mate, kindred spirits who had to exist together in this lifetime. My fear was that this would be disrupted once he knew the truth. Would he think that we were not really this dynamic mother/son duo? Would he love me any less? Would he want to know his biological mother and forget about me? I am actually tearing up writing this because these questions are still unanswered.
I initially wanted to wait until Troy was around ten to tell him about his adoption, but around his sixth birthday I had an intense urge to tell him. I tried to fight the urge because my children were already going through a divorce due to my marriage crumpling. It just did not seem fair to put all that on a six year old. Troy is intelligent and spiritually in tuned with his mother. The uncomfortable energy was getting too much to bear and we both felt it. I am so honest with my children about life because I have an unconventional approach to life.
It is not uncommon for me to sit Indian style with my children on the floor (or nature) as we exchange stories about our day. This day was different. We did not have family talk, but Troy was drawn to me like a moth to the light. It was as though he knew our lives would be forever changed, causing him to feel as though he had to cling to me. I never wanted his adoption to make him feel isolated or that he didn’t belong. He never have to fight for his rightful place, he always would be my first true, unconditional love. He taught me how to not give up on love even if your insecurities feel as though they’re smothering you. I was so paranoid to do adoption because I knew it would be challenging, but once I first locked eyes with Troy……………I knew that he was worth any price I had to pay regarding adoption. He was my son. I was his mother and I spent 25 years preparing for that very moment.
I grab his hand and led him into the room alone. As soon as I opened my mouth, tears started to flow. Troy squeezed my hand and said, “Mommy its okay, you can tell me anything”. Little did he know, he brought sheer comfort in an emotionally crippling moment. I opened my mouth and said………………………………………………..
Come back next week for part two!
Years ago, my mother said something to me that left me in complete anger. She told me that I had a problem with forgiveness, which caused me to throw people away like trash. Was she right? In my heart, I knew it was the truth. When people hurt my feelings or did the opposite of what I wanted them to do, I simply discarded them because they was no longer useful to my life. I know that sound harsh, but that was my certitude.
How dare my mother say such a statement?. At the time, I could not receive it because I was not ready to accept that I had real issues that not only harmed myself; but others. That immaturity caused me to be blinded to my shortcomings. Then, the relationship between my mother and I was strained, to say the least. I blamed her for a lot of my “FUCKEDUPNESS” and at the time I was in no position to take criticism from the person who I thought was responsible for my pain. Fast forward years later, three children, a divorce, independence like I never seen before, and falling in love again……………….FORGIVENESS has been my saving grace. It has single handedly been the end to my own suffering and bad energy. It does not come easy because this girl could hold a grudge………FOR YEARS! It allows me to forgive almost instantly, if I feel pained or hurt from someone’s words or actions. Even if I can not forgive in that very moment or shortly after, my heart is now conditioned to accept that no matter what……I will forgive. I did not have that clarity years before. Forgiveness causes me to now love my partner, even after I feel as though my heart has been broken (HEARTache ain’t no WHORE!). No matter what we go through, I come right back after cooling off because that is what unconditional love details. It is kind and patience. If you are a parent, you understand how your children can break your heart a million times over. I had to learn that unconditional love means to love my children even when they display the ugliest behaviours. I can not just love them when they make their mother look great! Forgiveness and love go hand in hand. Until you realize that, experiencing pure love is not possible. Even learning to love my mother as a perfect child of God, have been my pleasure. I choose to forgive everything I felt she failed to give me. I discovered she loved me perfectly and to the best of her ability. When I did that, I could finally remember all the wonderful things she did give me.
I say all of this to say…………………Forgiveness is necessary. If you want to evolve into a better version of yourself, it starts with forgiveness. Only the ability to forgive will help you make peace with your past and forgive everyone (or everything) that has caused you grief.
Choose forgiveness today!
It looks like Penny has come out of hiding! Pictures of the 5o year old, geriatric mother has finally surfaced. Janet Jackson went in hiding last May after canceling her tour because she was “planning a family” with her husband. Rumors of surrogacy started to swirl because of the singer’s age, but those rumors have officially been shut DOWN. Entertainment Tonight (ET) has the exclusive new photos taken Tuesday afternoon, when she was spotted out and about in London with a visible baby bump. Jackson, who is rarely photographed in public, was seen leaving the baby furniture store Back In Action wearing sneakers, dark sweatpants, a black sweater and a matching scarf and headband.
She looks great and similar to an expectant mother. I must admit, that Janet is crazy for doing pregnancy at 50. Pregnancy is hard on any woman’s body, so I could imagine her gripe. I can say, I think it’s worth it, I’m pretty sure she is overjoyed to do something she thought was out the cards……………………for the second time! (SHADE) You know she has a thirty-something “love child” somewhere name “Katherine Debarge”!
Poets, I know that it has been a while since I have posted and believe ME…… I miss you guys so much. God has been doing some incredible things in my life and I had to lose somethings to GAIN more! As sad as I was to have to put the blog on hiatus (To quiet my mind, heart, and soul), God helped me to discover and acknowledge my faults. It was time to finally release the old ways of doing things, to see a new way of being) After, I was clear of those things God providing a healing that I am still in awe of. Forgivingness is a powerful tool! It helps to end your suffering and free yourself from unnecessary baggage from your past. Now, my future looks brighter than ever and I am so happy to be fully present in this moment…… MY MOMENT! I am grateful to experience new opportunities. I am working on my new greeting card line, Poetic Philosophy Greeting Card Company, LLC and an online radio show called SistaGirl Sessions with Danielle. I decided to turn my BLOG into a VLOG, providing you with footage and livestream of my new online, radio show. It will be a raw, energetic, fun, freeing, and just plain DOPE platform targeting African American women. It will be a space where we will relate to one another, evolve our thinking, and encourage one another! I will be guiding the conversation alongside my “girlfriends/cohosts” on everyday topics similar to my “Girlfriend Chat of The Day” blogs! I will be discussing everything from sex, soul evolution, relationships, politics, to entertainment/media! Please join me in these new adventures and we will keep this platform as a positive, loving space of sisterhood! I love you guys and believe me………..I’m cooking up something delicious!
See You Soon POETS!
From YOUR POET!