I feel in love with the interview that Jennifer Lopez gave to People Magazine in this month’s issue. The singer speaks on the demise of her third marriage and how she used the relationship with Casper Smart to help masked the pain. This is actually the 45 year old first time being single, she made a vow to be alone, love herself more.
“I had to make a commitment to myself to be alone: no flirting. No possibility of anything. No boys in any way, shape or form. I said, ‘I’m shutting it down,’ ” the star – who produced and stars in the steamy thriller The Boy Next Door (out Friday) – tells PEOPLE in this week’s cover story. “I’d never been alone.” “I always found my comfort in another person,” says Lopez, whose divorce from singer Marc Anthony was finalized in June, 2014, three years after their split. “Instead of giving myself time to heal and be on my own, I was so afraid to be that I was always like, ‘Okay somebody else just come in here and help me forget I’m in so much pain.’ “
– “I was terrified of being alone” – Lopez is upbeat about the future. “Listen, at the end of the day, love is the best thing,” she says. “But what I’ve discovered is that I can’t get that from somebody else. It’s the love inside me, for myself, that will help me through.” Lopez is currently single, the hard-working entertainer and mother, 45, hasn’t sworn off romance for good. “I still believe in the fairy tale,” she says. “The more I work on myself, the more I give myself the opportunity to share a really deep and meaningful relationship that can give me my fairy tale and last forever.” These days, Lopez is “open” to dating but vows to take things slowly. “I’m not rushing into anything in any way, shape or form,” she says. “And I’m not looking.”
I thought her candidness was refreshing and real. I think it’s hard for anyone to be okay with not having the affection and attention (AND THE SEX) of a spouse, to depend fully on yourself for comfort and support.